Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Tragedy.....take 2

Well, I know some of you saw my last post and then probably are wondering why it was gone., Let me explain, if you know ANYTHING about Mike he is a very private guy, and his family are very much the same. I felt bad for blogging about the situation as soon as I did, with all the details.
Well, Mike said I could put it back on...so here we go.
On Thursday morning, we were listening to the primary songs and finishing exercising, when Mike called me into his "Office," aka our bedroom. He then told me of the bad, terrible, horrific news. He said, "Something bad happened last night, Jason by brother died." I went numb, I had to look on the Internet for the story to make it REAL to me. We didn't know what to do, and to be frank we still really don't. Mike and his family are doing really great, and staying super close to each other and to the Lord. It was a super neat experience at their home, all the family (four boys and both parents) all got blessings from each other. It is a night I will never forget and I don't think any of them will. I am so grateful for the peace that we can feel even at bad times in our lives. It is a true personal testimony that He loves us, and really cares for us, I knew that, but now I really do .
Jason was in a car accident and we think killed immediately, which was a blessing. He was ejected, it gives me the chills to write that. Which again, I think was a blessing, the car caught fire, and people had to be rescued. He was the only one that died, but a lot are hurt and I don't know there stories.
I hope we can all learn something from this. Mike was and is an awesome brother. Being the oldest of the boys, he has set a great example. We feel blessed to have gotten to know him better these few years we have lived in Utah closer to him. He was such a funny guy! He will be missed.
Mike has done a lot with the arrangements and I am grateful for that, I think it helps. He wrote the obituary, and he is going to post that soon. He is also putting a picture video together, which I THINK we should be able to post. He is also talking at the funeral, which should be a shock to everyone. Mike doesn't do that, it will be a great tribute to Jason. Mike will do great, and I am proud of him for doing it.
Mike is doing as well as can be expected, the same with his family. We just wish we would have had more time with him. I am sooo grateful we know the plan and that we will see him again. Please keep Mike and his family in your prayers.

On a brighter side of things:

Ryker is growing up sooo fast. He is saying new words and lots of them everyday. He loves to read and learn just like his sister. He is a funny little guy, he is always copying someone. He is always making me laugh. He is running everywhere, he loves basketball still. When we are in the car, he just sits in his car seat saying bball, seeing all the basketball hoops as we drive, it is soooo funny. He brings me diapers when he needs to be changed, and always wants to throw the old ones in the garbage. He even sat on the potty today, nothing came, but good start.

Hailey loves to read and learn, she is sooo excited about going to pre-school in the fall. She makes me call her school girl! She wrote so many names today, I didn't know she even knew how. She showed me that she knows how to draw a flower, this kid is amazing! She loves to play with her friends. She is super silly with her dad, and her brother. She says the funniest things. I just laugh all of the time.

I am so grateful for my family, and the knowledge of being with them forever. I don't know what I would do without these kids, and my wonderful husband. I love you all soooo much.

Pictures of everyone and everything will come as soon as life slows down a little. It has been pretty nuts, around here.

Monday, March 23, 2009

Thanks to ALL my friends!!!

Thank you to all of you that read my bitter blog. I am so grateful to have you all in my life. Your comments helped me be soooo grateful for my life, my family, our savings, and the gospel.
Just so you all know, things are going MUCH, MUCH better. We still don't have a job, or the two kid thing mastered yet....but we are working on both. These kids are so amazing, they make me laugh so hard. They really sense when you need to be cheered up, they come and say the cutest things, give hugs, or just want you to hold them. I love being a mom, and a wife.
Updates on kids that will hopefully make you smile:
Ryker is walking, and walking everywhere. He is such a silly little guy. He LOVES basketball, like LOVES it, to the point if he sees ANYTHING round or a hoop, he says "bball" until we go get it for him, or let him out of the highchair. We were at church and he sees the hoop in the gym, and the whole ward knows he wants the basketball hoop, because everyone can hear him!! We are going to get him a little standard for Easter, he will love it. He has also started to recognize places, when we pulled into my moms, he said mammas, and when we pulled home one day, he said pappas. It is so sweet, he really gets excited these days. It must be fun to be one, it sure is fun watching him grow. He is teething, so that is really sad, but he is doing great, couldn't ask for more.
Our little Hailey, is getting soooo big. She loves to run, and can run really fast and well for such a little thing. Yesterday she asked us to go for a walk with her while I pushed Ryker and she pushed her Ryker. Daddy came too, which never happens, it was really sweet. Hailey loves to read, she brings me books all of the time and wants me to read to her. She loves craft monday, she loves to pick what we do, it's a lot of fun. I can't believe she will be old enough to go to pre-school in the fall, it's so neat. She says the funniest things, just a couple of days ago, she said "Mike, what the heck, you just dorked me with the ball!" She also says not the best words, we were up at my moms, and she babysits my nephews, and for some reason my 5 year old nephew comes down and says "Hailey called me an ass twice." I didn't know what to do other than to say what did you do, and then say sorry. I need to be careful, don't I?
I helped my mother in law make an apron for Hailey for Easter. It will be so cute. Thank you for your help, and patience with me. She is soooo great and creative, she can work wonders.
Anyway, so that is the happier update on our family. I got a great peaceful feeling yesterday that everything will be okay. I sure live for those moments, I think we have to.
I know other people are having hard times right now, and you all are in my thoughts and prayers, I hope we all can have better days and remember them when the bad ones come to the surface.
Thanks again, love you all.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

A Bad Day, it all began at 7:10!!!

Update on Mikes work situation:
There is NOT a working situation anymore. He was working for a company based out of Arizona, but that ended and now we are back to square one. I can't believe it. He wants to start his own business but says that I am a distraction, and that the kids are noisy. I feel like an intruder in my own home. Needless to say, we go places everyday, and stay there a LONG time. I get sooo bugged that we can't be here, being who we are. I just am having a hard time with this. I feel like the worst wife, I try to be supportive, but it's sooo hard when I don't see the results. I don't mean to be bitter, but....
I should back up a little, so you know what kind of week I have had. I went to see my parents this week (to get out of the house so it could be quiet) and on the way home, I fell asleep three times on the way home, on the freeway. To everyone, I know I am stupid and this will never happen again. I was talking to my mom tonight and told her, and she had a different spin on things. She was grateful that I didn't hit the wall the first time, and the two semi's the next two times. I really felt someone telling me to wake up, and then feeling someone help me NOT over correct. I still cannot believe how dumb I was. Two sleeping, innocent kids in the back, and then me being sooooo irresponsible, and stupid in the front. I am so grateful to the Lord and the angels who helped me get my angels home safe that day. I was not tired and I still don't know what happened. I felt like the crappiest mom ever, and still do.
And that brings us to today:
This morning began nice and early, Hailey seems to love to wake up at 7:10 (I hate daylight savings time, something in me wishes I was moving to Arizona!), and she comes and gets me, and this morning I did not want to move until Ryker woke up, which was at 7:23, so I got out of bed and started the day.
Haileys' earrings has been having some issues lately, and every time we need to clean them, wow, she is screaming and yelling, kicking, and this morning she called me mean mommy. I almost cried. I gave up, Mike I think got it cleaned out. I think he gave up too and took the other one out too. It has been almost three months, so I hope her holes don't close in.
Then came the play dough fun, her friend Hayley came over and played with her. Ryker wanted to but he ate it again, so I ended that pretty fast. Play date went well, but my mind was just already on "over it."
Then I was going to attempt Costco. Well Mike looked at me and said I was crazy taking two kids alone to Costco with the day I was having. So, as with everything, Mike gets his way. I stayed home and made lunch for us (mostly him, I'm fine with sandwiches).
Then I put Ryker in his highchair and made Fajitas for lunch. I was trying to keep my spirits up. I love to cook and clean when I have a lot on my mind.
Nap time was next. They fell asleep great, and I got to exercise while they were asleep. It felt really great.
I thought "oh the day is better after naps, let's go outside and clean out the car, vacuum , wipe, everything." To my surprise it went pretty well.
Then I started to go on a walk with some of the moms from my ward. OH MY!!! They were soooo naughty. Hailey didn't want to ride, she wanted to push everyone's stroller. Then the treats weren't enough for Ryker today, he SCREAMED the entire time. Well I cut the walk short and went home.
Then, Mike said that it was time for Costco. We ate dinner there. Right in the middle of dinner, they evacuated the entire place! They said that they had gotten a bomb threat. Anyway, so we left and went to Wal-mart. We first went home to grab the ads, because they match...anyway....matching takes a lot of concentration...I will NOT be doing this anytime soon. I just really needed milk and bananas, but if I would have known what was going to happen I would have stayed home.
We go into Wal-mart, and we head for the produce. Well, everything was okay. Ryker and Hailey are both in the cart. I am looking for things that match, and that we need. Well Mike gets her out, because she was being good, while Ryker pulls on the apples in a bag, and Hailey grabs them from him to put them back, and BLAM, he is on the floor quicker than I could catch him. I see it all in slow motion, throw everything down and go to my child who is now on the floor scared out of his mind. His neck is bent, and his body is in back of him, he cried in my arms sooo loud, and hard. Hailey was so sad, I know she didn't mean to, she said sorry a lot, but I didn't know what to do. Mike came over and I know he was trying to be nice, but, he grabbed Ryker from me and said "lets finish our shopping", What? I am in panic mode, Rykers' head was facing a direction that did not look good, and he wants to just finish shopping and move on.....I wanted to comfort him, and I wanted Mike to get Hailey so I didn't have to worry about her. I ended up giving him to Mike, and was just so sad the entire time. I used to work in the grocery stores and see this all of the time....now I am THAT mom....I feel sooooo bad, I just wish I could have done something, anything....I am a terrible mom. I want to let you know, that both kids are great tonight, and they are both asleep and Ryker CAN move....blessings.....wherever I can find them. Hopefully tomorrow is a better day. My mom also said something tonight to think about, she said that we all can think a little bit more before we judge and think bad things about "those" moms we see, that have unfortunate things happen to their kids. I know I will, next time I witness something sad. Two people came over to me, and asked how he was, and one even said babies move sooo fast. Thank you for not judging me.
I just need to go for a LONG run, and stop eating everything in sight.
Sorry for depressing you, thanks for reading my blog and being my friend.
So much for trying to save money in this economy right? Full prices, and healthy kids sounds a lot better to me.
Jess

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Thursday, February 26, 2009

New month, should mean new post.

Well. It has been a crazy month. I know all of my posts start the same, but it sooo true. Mike is working from home, and well for anyone who has done that, you know what I mean. It has been sooo hard. But at least he is working right?
Ryker is still not walking, man he is driving me bonkers! He has started talking, he says mamma, uhuh for no, and Haigey, and ba, for banana, bite bye and of course BALL, he loves any kind, definitely a boy, he is a fun little guy to have around. He pooped on the potty too, I'm not potty training a little guy who can't even walk, but it was still a good thing right? I don't even want to think about that right now. I am glad that we don't have the "blumps" anymore. Earlier this month we all were sick with the flu, Haileys' lasted 6 days, and Rykers' lasted 9 days, mine and Mikes' only were the 24 hour, I felt sooo bad. Anyway, Hailey combined blowing chunks, and she called it the "blumps." Sooo cute, out of something completely ugly.
Hailey on the other hand is soooo funny. She had her first primary program on Sunday, and she new all the words, and believe me WE ALL could here her. I was in the over flow, and Mike was standing by the stage in the gym, and HE and I could here her perfect. At least she wasn't the one picking her nose right? Hailey is such a little mommy. We were watching Dr. Phil, the one about the eight babies....she said mom, I'm going to need some help, I only have two hands, how am I going to carry eight babies? A three year old said and implied ALL to well what we are all thinking. So, we went to a store this month, and she went right over to a picture of Christ and a little child and she said mom look, Savior beside me! How cute is that? So, later this month, I bought it for her for Valentines, I gave it to her, trying to not think of the cost......she said mom, it's not my size, I am only three! Needless to say, I returned it and bought two post card size ones, so that she would be happy. She is so funny, she carries them everywhere.
Well, busy, crazy, just testified. Ryker was quiet, which can't be good right, he was into the bug catchers, the terminex people left in areas where they cannot spray. Sticky mess, you might ask? Yes. He and Hailey are in the bathtub as we speak. Mental note if this happens to anyone, vegetable oil...water does not help, and neither does alcohol. If it is in the hair, vegetable oil works there as well.
Gotta go, but I will post my and Haileys' new hair cut soon. It makes her look so big.
I decided to blog more tonight instead of finishing the laundry. I wanted to post that we went to the park yesterday, which really was today, anyway, it was Rykers first real time at the park, we took him last year but he didn't do much. Ryker hates the swing, and loves the slides. Totally opposite of Hailey. Hailey loved being at the park again, I love spring time. I love spending precious fun time with my kids.
Today, which is today literally, we played play dough....good times. I thought wow, why haven't we done this more? Well, I will tell you, within seconds, Ryker put the whole orange blob in his mouth, after reading the bottle, non-toxic, I just had to laugh. That is pretty salty stuff, I felt bad. Hailey was doing good, so I thought...there were little pieces on the floor, which were on her shoes, and almost in the carpet....and that my friends is why moms don't do play dough....I guess. Anyway, we are all still alive, after a WILD night at Chuckee Cheeses. The kids had so much fun at that place.

Sunday, January 18, 2009

I finished the half marathon in 2 hours and 17 minutes!!!

Well, it finally came....
Race Day was so awesome. I am soooo glad I did it. To anyone who wants to do this and doesn't think they can, oh you can, you can and you will love it. It was the most amazing feeling crossing that finish line. Mike and the kids were there waiting for me, and it was great to share the happiness with them. They helped me train. Mike and the kids got to watch the race from Grandpa's house, the trail was right there, how awesome was that? I trained with four amazing girls, and we all finished, good job girls, it was a great run!
Hailey wanted to race as well, so that morning we got dressed together me in my running outfit, and her in hers, her hair like mine, breakfast the same, and of course we both needed to use the potty. I also made her a matching number. She thought she was racing, it was soooo cute.
At the end of the race, I put my medal on her, and she said no, I haven't done the kid race yet! We took her to the park and she raced these 2 older boys, and she won, or should I say smoked them!!!! It was so neat, she is a real runner. She was on the way home and said I need a shower!
Here's to more running, who knows if I'll do more, but I am soooo glad I did this one, Thanks to all those who helped me and encouraged me, you know who you are, and I LOVE YOU!!!!! See you with my double jogger!!! I "heart" running, and I am soooo glad I am NOT too sore.

Saturday, January 3, 2009

Why does watching your kids grow up make YOU sad?

So this weekend has been hard for me, in TWO ways. First of all, I stopped "feeding" Ryker. I know what you all are thinking....how old is he? To answer your question he is 13 1/2 months. I "fed" Hailey until she was this old also. Mike has told me the Ryker has been "recreational eating" for awhile now, but I have had a hard time because he is my last baby. So....bring on the soreness for a week, and FINALLY I can wear a tight sports bra, so that I don't worry about losing my milk!!!
Hailey is now a SUNBEAM! I know this is all normal and Hailey NEEDS to grow up, but last Sunday when I dropped her off and picked her up from her LAST nursery class, it was soooo sad. Hailey turned to me on the way out to the car, "don't be sad mom, I'm happy." I have had the hardest time with this.....She has had many people call and ask me if she can come over and play with them, and I tell their parents NO, because I have a hard time dropping her off, and WONDERING the whole time she is gone, if.."If she is okay," "If she is crying," "If she is sharing, or if her friends are sharing," "If she needs to go potty and feels comfortable going at the house," the list goes on and on, believe me it does, and I don't know if this is normal. I feel so bad, I know she needs this social part of her life, but how do I get passed it?
Here are some updates:
Ryker is now pushing everything we own out of his way, he is WALKING WITH everything. It is sooo funny. He says, "ot,oh" and "mo" meaning more, and for those of you who remember Haileys' little water noise, yes Ryker does that as well, so funny. We are working with him doing the stairs, and practicing "feet first", he is doing really well. Hailey is doing great with letters, she now knows the upper and lower case letters, still getting b and d confused, but really who can blame her? She is doing sooo well with numbers too. We read letters all of the time, and now have started sounding out letters together. She knows t, p, k, n, b, r,w,m,h,e,g,l,o,s,y,and we will be working on others soon. He and Hailey are really doing better, they are not coughing anymore and they are sleeping great.
They play with each other now, and that is soooo nice. It has been a hard year, of teaching Hailey to play nice with him, and teaching ME how to be patient, and kind towards them ALL of the time. They really get along great now, and I think the stars are aligned for at least this moment in time.
So off to meet the SUNBEAM teacher, I know waaaaaaa JESS, get over it, Hailey is.